We’ve created a multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical industry. We’ve glued ourselves to our iPhones and the endless scroll of social media. We’ve never had it so good, but we’ve never been so sad.
Our problem is not our pain, it is our lack of ability to cope with pain.
This is why I think it’s so important for kids to play sports. Sports taught me about loss, and about pain. Sports taught me that the last mile is the hardest, but sports taught me that if you keep running then you will finish and eventually, the pain will subside.
Sports taught me that you can collapse when the final whistle blows, but not sooner. Sports taught me how to hit and also taught me how to get hit.
I’m not a father, although I hope to be one day. When I have to raise a child, I will try my best to teach my kid that pain is not something that should be avoided or repressed.
Rather, pain is something that needs to be felt. We need our pain and our fears. We need to lose, if only to be reminded of our limitations. Our pain and our loss and our fears, they are our allies, they are our guiding light.
Listen to your pain, it is trying to teach you something.