People don’t like to fail in public.
Why would they? There’s nothing worse than being embarrassed in front of other people. But there is also nothing that will toughen you up like failing in front of other people.
I think this is why we all admire stand up comedians so much. Every successful comedian that has ever lived that has completely bombed on stage at least 10 times.
Could you imagine how horrifying that would be? People staring at you with blank faces while you stumble around your set? Laughing at your own jokes. Even thinking about it makes me anxious.
But I imagine there is something liberating about the experience. Because after you go through something that crushes your ego, other things don’t seem as scary.
I won’t tell you not to be afraid. Of course you’re afraid.
What I will tell you is to do it anyway.
So your first blog post got no readers. So what? Write another one. Write 10 more. Write 100 more. Write 1000 more.
So you lost your first jiu jitsu match. Who cares?
So you spoke in public and you sucked. What happened? Did you feel embarrassed? Did people make fun of you or laugh at you? Did you die?
Whatever. Get over it. You failed. Fail forward.